Finally getting pregnant after about 9 months of trying was wonderful and it was torture not telling everyone I knew. I’d read different opinions about when is the best time to tell others. Sean and I made the decision to tell our family right away. We knew that if anything went wrong, we could rely on them for support. We knew that we wanted to wait to go public(aka post it on Facebook), after our first appointment at least. This is what worked best for us.
One thing that comes with telling people that you are pregnant is advice. Now I do love and appreciate all the advice I’ve received and in no way do I not want advice. I’ve gotten some great advice in the past few months that has been helpful. But the best advice I’ve ever received was from one of my friends at work.
I’d told people at work before I announced it online. This was mostly because I’m with them every day and it’s hard to keep a secret from people you interact with all the time. So early on I received this great piece of advice from my friend: Don’t listen to other people’s advice.*
It seems rather harsh when you read it by itself, but when you really think about it, what’s most important when it comes to you and your pregnancy is that you do what you feel is best for you. To elaborate on this advice, I’d reword the advice to say instead: Graciously accept any advice that you receive, but ultimately do what you feel is best for you and your baby. If you follow only one piece of advice, then I highly recommend this one. It’s helped me to have an easier pregnancy and not feel obligated to do everything that everyone has told me to do.
*You should always listen to any health care advisors such as your primary doctor or OBGYN.